The former MTV India CEO, Ashiish Patil, is a writer, producer, director. He truly believes that stories have the power to change the world. Goldiboy and three apes is a remarkable endeavour in that pursuit, authored by Ashiish. 

Risshan, Ashiish 's son shares his lived experiences on his YouTube channel Issepshal. A stand-up comedian, he breaks stereotypes about autism with his own brand of humor. It appears Risshan is following in the footsteps of his father. But Ashhish believes otherwise."Like son-like father: says the dad. He, a late-diagnosed autistic, provides a few glimpses into their lives as well. 

 Read on to know more about the enterprising father-son duo...


ASHIISH PATIL

The trailer of the book is heartwarming. It stands out that you have been able to present a serious topic in an entertaining manner.

I’m so glad you enjoyed the trailer. The book is even more fun! And I’ve always believed no one is interested in listening to a sermon/ bhaashan. But a story or song, that’s when you can bring people in. After which you can deliver more than just entertainment. That’s why stories have the power to change the world. Hopefully, this is one such story that can make the world a wee bit more inclusive.

 I’ve always believed entertainment gives you the width, but adding that layer of meaning gives it the depth. And I’ve tried to do that across most, if not all, my projects.


Also, there is no pity, disbelief, shame, discrimination associated with disability. Is this something you wanted to convey through the book as well?

Absolutely. In the early phase, there is so much confusion for families and people who get diagnosed. It’s like a tsunami that hits you, ke bhai yeh kya ho rahaa hai?! And for the neurotypicals, at times the discrimination, fear comes out of just lack of awareness. Becoming aware is the first step to understanding, only then can acceptance happen.

 We are at that stage where we are celebrating it. I mean, Risshan, our son, who is autistic has made me not just a better dad, but a better person.

 Also, there is very little representation in mainstream media/ entertainment for people with disabilities. Whatever exists is godawful pity porn/ inspiration porn [the bechaari/ bechaara, or ‘wah wah’ narrative] or just downright insensitive, being played up for gags/ humor. I definitely wanted to help the community feel seen, heard. Like it’s ok to be different. And that they belong!

 “Isspeshal”, embellishes the special, giving it a desi twist as well. What were you thinking when you came up with isspeshal?

Isspeshal is a take on special. Not special needs, because everyone’s need are special – but about how our differences make the world more special. I mean vanilla ice cream every day would get pretty boring–autism is that mix of chocolate sauce, sprinkles or that fun topping that adds diversity to life and makes it more,  Isspeshal.

 Isspeshal also is the name of the Creative flagship company that me and my wife, Shital run. So every project we do, be it a feature film, web series, music video, advertisement or, for that matter, a children’s book ALWAYS has a tie-in at the back-end to neurodiversity. Be it the catering for a shoot, a neurodivergent intern or assistant director in the crew or the goodie giveaway designed by someone from the community. Phir raat ko neend bhi better aati hai 😊

 

With over 100 illustrations, and an adaptation of one of the most popular fairy tales, it is a challenging project. How long did you work on it?

Oh yes, it took us over a year. It’s not like a traditional children’s book, which is typically 24 to 40 pages. This one is a gorgeous 120 odd pages with as many beautiful hand-drawn illustrations done by an art-teacher who works with kids. We wanted to make sure that every image looks really appealing and has more layers. For instance, the infinity sign, which is the international symbol of autism, has been incorporated seamlessly across the book. On Goldiboy’s t-shirt, as the clip in Baby Ape’s hair, as a butterfly… the choice of the book Papa is reading, the playlist on the iPad are all conscious. With Temple Grandin [our Autism legend], Billie Eilish [who has Tourette’s], the language used [‘brain has left the group’, ‘learning to be flexible’], the references to ‘gluten-free’ diets, weighted blankets are all conscious. We got the book also validated by a bunch of therapists, counsellors, special educators, autism moms, doctors to make sure we’ve got it right. It was quite a process, but seeing the final version, it all seems worth it!

 

This is a story about an autistic son written by an autistic dad, a book of its kind, most likely. A late diagnosed autistic yourself. Could you tell us about your late diagnosis?

 Now, as the saying goes, ‘like father, like son’… in our case, it turned out to be ‘like son, like father’. Thanks to Risshan, as I started reading up about autism a lot more, attending therapy sessions, working with him and more, I started noticing so many similarities, commonalities. A bunch of things that I never understood as a child, that I ignored as a teen and probably masked as an adult. Seeing how Risshan leads such an authentic life, so fearlessly, I finally mustered up the courage to get a formal assessment myself. It was a gruelling 3 months of multiple in-depth interviews, with me, my family, detailed questionnaires, a lot of soul-searching which finally told me something I always suspected. And more than the label, it was just the clarity that I sought. It was like a cloud had lifted from my brain.

 I guess Rissh and I have more in common than I thought. One more thing to bond over!


Storytelling stands as an incredibly potent medium through which to convey and express one's perspective. Stand-up comedy is another form of storytelling. How and when did Risshan start doing stand-up comedy?

Yeah, stories have to power to change the world. And humor is a tool to jump any and every human firewall. You can drop hajaar truth bombs when packaged with humor. Risshan is an inherently funny kid. Often unintentionally also. And besides being a great mimic, he loves performing! I mean, right when one of us is angry, he will imitate his mom/ me and crack us up. I have also always used humor as a tool to escape, cope, belong. So together, as baap-beta, we’re quite a killer combo. I write, he performs. We did a couple of fun sketches like…

Things ‘normal’ people say to people with autism…

https://youtu.be/2Q5-5kEqmIg

 Every neurodivergent…

Dad: https://youtu.be/D8Ca3OJ2vi4

Mom: https://youtu.be/7Ku9Su0Ri5s

 And they were a riot.

The birthday videos he does for people are usually laugh out loud too.

So, we started putting up these Chhota sets of stand-up, shot with just a couple of us…

https://youtu.be/qNLpQd8gfyQ

 Some spoken word poetry and more.

https://youtu.be/ZXiDcmJJXG0

 To expose him to more and more formats.

And also use different genres to really get the message on neurodiversity and inclusion out there.

 

As a family, what do you perceive to be your strengths?

Well, we are a nice tripod. Each leg is equally important. Even if one fell short, the stool would be wobbly. And each of us brings a different skill to the table. Of course, my poor wife, Shital has to deal with two corny neurodivergents at home with a really weird sense of humor. She brings reason, structure, sense to all we do. I bring the creative chops, the writing, the lateral thinking, the eye for detail on execution, the ideas. Risshan brings his big heart, his sense of humor, his purity. He keeps us honest. As a family, I guess, the ability to keep it real, to appreciate, celebrate the small things, and a passion to now really give back/ help the world become more inclusive are our biggest strengths.

 RISSHAN PATIL

 How do you feel about being the hero in your father’s book?

I love seeing my photo in the book; I love that Goldiboy looks like me and I love that there are so many things that I love in the book–from pizzas, iPads to Bikes, Bappi Lahiri, Beatles and Billie Eilish besides my Papa’s Bad Jokes! I think we should make a movie with me as hero now… then I can do my Dhoom dance!


I watched some of your videos and you were just superb. How do you put together a script?

Thank you so much. My Papa helps me. I keep cracking silly jokes. And saying funny things and Papa is usually watching this. His sense of humor, believe it or not, is worse than mine. So, he takes the things I say, do and turns them into sillier, funnier things. I just have to be myself. It’s so fun. I looooove making people laugh.

I also work with Papa, and we make up songs. Like my most favorite thing in the world is pizzas. And we toss around words about pizzas, then we find words that rhyme with that. And turn it into a rap song. Papa plays a groove and then we go, check this out…

I love Pizza rap

https://youtu.be/c_gs_UMGcP0

 I prefer to get paid in pizzas when I perform.

 

What has been the most memorable moment for you?

I love performing; I love singing. Recently I got to become Pushpa in the school play, wear a beard and then say funny lines. I also got a pizza for doing a good job.

 Also, of course, seeing me in my Papa’s book and Goldiboy, who looks like me.

[My Papa bribed me with a pizza to say this! 😉]


Risshan's answers have been paraphrased by Ashiish for better coherence. 


Excited to see what the duo is up to next.The Goldiboy and the three apes; is a great introduction to autism for children and adults alike. Get your copy now!




Comments

Popular Posts

Language activities

Random musings